The last two days have proven to be quite a test for some people, Black & White. When word of Dr. Laura’s call with a Black woman wanting guidance on how to deal with her White husband’s insensitive family backfired on her and set the wheels in motion for yet another “conversation” on race, the internet lit up with “responses”.
In direct response to Dr. Laura and her desire to use the “n-word”, I totally agree with her. Black men primarily, then those of other races in the throws of a lame attempt to be “cool”, have adopted the “n-word” and use it freely. I ask all these people to learn the TRUE definition of the word, then to wrap themselves in the historical usage of the word and explain to the world why it is acceptable for use in such an advanced society. Even within the Black community, I find the word unacceptable and unjustifiable in its use. Yes, I know no one can control what you call yourself but why would you desire to call yourself something so disgustingly derogatory? I wish people would understand that the “do as I say, not as I do” mentality does not apply here…the “monkey see, monkey do” mentality is what has Whites & other races believing because you use the “n-word” against yourself, we can use it against you too.
I understand Dr. Laura’s purpose on the radio and I know several people who have tuned into her for years. If race & inter-racial dating/marriage is a topic that she feels will make her jump off the deep end into the abyss that is insanity, then her call screening staff should weed those calls out somehow. To me, it’s just that simple.
For the caller, I believe she was left in a lurch wondering what the hell happened. But…calling into a radio show about my relationship/marriage is not something I would ever do. I can not speak for everyone else. To me, there is a proper way to deal with the issue the woman was facing…and it does not include calling a radio show. It just doesn’t! This woman would have been much better off keeping this discussion between her husband, his family & herself in my opinion. If additional support was needed, a consultation with someone not concerned with ratings & listeners may have provided the perspective she sought.
Dr. Laura did issue an apology and it did sound as if she were reading from prepared remarks. Given the statements that got her into this mess to begin with, maybe she should have a script…so don’t fault her on that and don’t pretend to know all you need to know about her because of it.
Inter-racial dating/marriage is a very touchy subject for some people and that will never change. To me, dealing with the “issue” of inter-racial dating/marriage is very easy…mind your own business…just as you should in regards to same race dating/marriage. Keep in your lane & mind your business. If it’s not your relationship, shut it! Regardless if you agree or disagree, your thoughts on the topic will not change the minds of two people interested in being together.
In the case of Dr. Laura, giving advise is what she does & regardless of how senseless it is to me to call or listen to a show of this type, some people rely on her show as a way to learn how to deal with life situations. Obviously, I do believe Dr. Laura could have handled this caller better by providing a much less opinion driven response, which sounded so much more personal than it did professional.
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